It occurs to me I should be more grateful for what I've got and less focused on driving myself to acquire what I don't have. Because what I've got is a lot, and why do I think I need so much more? Need to work on this.
I find myself feeling the same way, a LOT lately. I am so driven to reach the goals that are so far away, to make my life better, that I almost forget the things I have and by doing that, those things suffer...
Ugh.
Hope margarita night was fun. I am totally sick but hope to be out next week. (no, I WILL be out next week)
Apparently the Microsoft Christmas party is next Thursday--depending on how that goes, I may or may not be at Adobo. (My husband works for MS, if you wondered!) This is starting to sound like one of those "separated at birth" jokes. (But we have been seen in the same room at the same time, so there.)
Hope you feel better soon. No one should be sick on Friday!
Wow, I struggle with this so much. I know that what I need is a big dosing of gratitude, I mean I have a roof over my head (okay it's small and in a low income building) but it's mine. I have a job, I have clothes, I have friends. I think so much in terms of comparisons and where other people (people my age) are and what they have and what I've achieved and start to get down on myself. The truth is just by the fact that you have gratitude, you're way up on things. It sounds to me from reading your LJ that you've got a lot going on for you, but still I know it doesn't make it easy to be kinder on yourself.
I think the way we see ourselves can be so different from the way others see us. It's interesting, isn't it...?
There's a book called "Simple Abundance" that I started working with several years ago. The basic premise is to write down 5 things every day that you're grateful for. Once I started doing that, my entire viewpoint changed. I couldn't believe how easy it was. I think it's because I started spending my days looking for things to write down that night, and lo and behold, I found them. And somehow it seemed to open up the world to let more good stuff in. I don't normally proselytize about books like this (because I think that's really obnoxious!) but I've never found anything else that worked so well. Periodically I have to start doing "Simple Abundance" again to give myself a refresher course--I think that's what I should be doing now.
It's definitely true that many/most of us see ourselves quite a bit differently than others see us, and (for the most part) we are our own worst critics.
It's strange, sometimes, the things that can bring us out of a funk. My most recent significant funk was "cured" by, of all things, surgery. ;) The reactions of so many of the people around me, when I went into the hospital and for the weeks thereafter, did a lot to reinforce to me just how much I *do* have to be thankful for, and this opened my eyes to possibilities that I'd previously just dismissed.
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Date: 2002-12-06 07:09 am (UTC)Ugh.
Hope margarita night was fun. I am totally sick but hope to be out next week. (no, I WILL be out next week)
-Jess
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Date: 2002-12-06 09:40 am (UTC)Hope you feel better soon. No one should be sick on Friday!
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Date: 2002-12-11 11:02 pm (UTC)We ARE going to hang out soon... ok?!!!
Next Thursday possibly?!!!
Have fun at the party!
jess
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Date: 2002-12-06 09:32 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2002-12-06 09:45 am (UTC)There's a book called "Simple Abundance" that I started working with several years ago. The basic premise is to write down 5 things every day that you're grateful for. Once I started doing that, my entire viewpoint changed. I couldn't believe how easy it was. I think it's because I started spending my days looking for things to write down that night, and lo and behold, I found them. And somehow it seemed to open up the world to let more good stuff in. I don't normally proselytize about books like this (because I think that's really obnoxious!) but I've never found anything else that worked so well. Periodically I have to start doing "Simple Abundance" again to give myself a refresher course--I think that's what I should be doing now.
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Date: 2002-12-06 11:20 am (UTC)It's strange, sometimes, the things that can bring us out of a funk. My most recent significant funk was "cured" by, of all things, surgery. ;) The reactions of so many of the people around me, when I went into the hospital and for the weeks thereafter, did a lot to reinforce to me just how much I *do* have to be thankful for, and this opened my eyes to possibilities that I'd previously just dismissed.