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[m_cobweb]

Wow. Again, I find my disillusionment has depths yet unplumbed.

I remember how it felt to be picked on. I could go right back to that place in a moment if circumstances were right. I don't want to see a friend go through it now.

There are some cases where I can say, "Consider the source." There are others where I don't think harm is meant, but people need to get their heads out of their asses and think about their actions. And then there are people who really should know better.

I know this comes and goes, I know it's neither the first nor last time. But this time it's getting to me. I believe I'll be taking a leave of absence from the SG Board for a while. Too bad, because I was starting to enjoy it again.

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[etherpunk.livejournal.com]

Other than some of the main discussion threads and Arts and Entertainment, I've pretty much given up on it.

Mainly because most of the people there have no clue how to act like adults, and the moderators being some of those people really makes you want to think twice about participating in any of the threads.

[vorona.livejournal.com]

I coined the term scapegoatse.cx while
trying to say what I think you're trying to say
here. They love the word. Yay me. But no, all
suggestions that it'd be appropriate to lay off
have been met with derision and the new "CCN,
sanitized for your protection" thing. Yeah, I
think it's unnecessary and inappropriate. I wish
it wouldn't drive you off the board, though.

It gets to me when I see how quickly people jump on a
targeted person, and how vulnerable they look when they
do that. Such behavior doesn't EVER fool me into thinking
that they do this because they're confident, themselves.
And that's what surprises me. I guess I expect more people
to be more confident than that, and not to have to stomp on
someone else to feel like somebody, or to get approval from
the crowd. It just seems so odd and unnecessary.

[m-cobweb.livejournal.com]

I generally avoid the thread in question and stick with the nice folks in Fashion and Services Offered, with forays into "happy birthday" threads and Get It Out/Compliments. Chances are it won't take me long to get back into that routine, to be honest. ;-)

Right now I am having a real gut reaction to this--partly, I'm sure, due to it surfacing after my meme about adjectives describing my past. Now that I know for a fact that a friend is being hurt by this sort of thing--grrr. The protective urge is strong.

Just hide the sharp objects from me for a while, and I'm sure I'll be fine. ::sigh::

[ladymeag.livejournal.com]

I've been taking a leave of absense of late, as no one can discuss anything without resorting to name-calling or merely pointing out grammatical mistakes and not bothering with the substance of the post. It's not like my posts are unreadable. I gave up on it - I might return, I might not. I might just pop in every once in a while to see what is going on. There are people who I wouldn't have met if it weren't for that board, but there has to be a better way. Maybe it is staring me in the face.

[m-cobweb.livejournal.com]

You are so absolutely right about LJ. And to think I hesitated starting mine. Yes, it may take too much of my time, but I honestly have no regrets. ;-)

[ladymeag.livejournal.com]

I hesitated with mine as well. I even didn't post in it for a year after my first two posts - thinking who would read this stuff.... I was wrong. :)

I don't regret the time I spend on this either.

[balzacq.livejournal.com]

I just completely avoid CCN (I assume that's what you're talking about). There's just no point and no interest for me. And I tend to avoid the jackasses in real life, too.

That said, I've also been taking a leave from the Politics forum. It's really my favorite, but lately I've noticed that it's been causing, well, high blood pressure and a tendency toward intemperate replies rather than reasoned arguments. (Really, it's a few people on it who are so anti-everything-I-believe-in that they manage to piss me off even worse than PhantomQueen used to.)

Anyway, remember the Bryan Lovely Patented Anti-Drama Shield (tm). Extend your thumbs and forefingers, touch your thumbs together to make a W, and (forcefully, disgustedly, or resignedly) repeat as necessary: "What. Ever." :-)

[luchog.livejournal.com]

Really, it's a few people on it who are so anti-everything-I-believe-in that they manage to piss me off even worse than PhantomQueen used to.

I've noticed that even people who used to be fairly reasonable have gotten to the point where they will make huge issues out of extremely minor points, just so they have something with which to bludgeon and browbeat someone who otherwise agrees with them fairly strongly. It's cost several people my respect; and i'm tired of dealing with them.

[m-cobweb.livejournal.com]

I do have a great Valley Girl voice I could use for that. It's tremendously obnoxious. Just ask anyone who's heard it.

[luchog.livejournal.com]

I've just gotten sick of the entire mess there. It seems that almost no one is capable of simply discussing anything. The vast majority of people, particularly in Politics, take any disagreement as some sort of personal attack, and respond with name-calling, dismissal, and other bullshit. It seems the only thing they're interested in anymore is insulting and browbeating anyone who doesn't agree with them, and posting the same, stupid, unfunny jokes 27 times in each thread -- and i'm not even referring to CCN. (CCN is just a pointless wasteland of endless repetition and humour that barely aspires to juvenile.)

It's gotten so bad in politics that certain people have even begun manufacturing arguments with people who they're in fairly close agreement with. There are a couple who have pretty much lost any respect i had for them in the past. People who, as you said, should really know better.

The whole thing, lately, has had the effect of driving me back into my misanthropic exile. I do not want to see anyone or talk to anyone, particularly anyone who may be on the crackboard. I've had people try to drag me out to clubs, but I can't go because there are too many people i really don't want to see there.

The only thing I do any more is Goffee, and that's only because there's one person there i really like, who I don't see anywhere else, and few of the annoying people ever show up.

*hugs*

[oomingmak.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry :(

That's why I avoid the board completely. I kept getting emotionally worked up over its frequent petty dynamics. Now I just blog merrily.

[vorona.livejournal.com]

There's a coincidental/appropriate poll on bullying here:
http://pub53.ezboard.com/fseagothforumfrm24.showMessage?topicID=4848.topic

It's been said repeatedly before, but I keep coming back to it:
bullying is weak. I'm always so surprised to see bullying
behavior in people who don't seem to need to prove anything.
It's embarrassing, it's TMI, it's painful to watch--- ugh.

[aaminahlefae.livejournal.com]

Sorry; can't be a positive influence here, unless you consider me saying "I think it's a fine idea to ignore it completely except maybe events and rollcalls like I do." Frankly; there are a lot of really immature people on the board. I can pick who I socialize with here in LJ land for the most part and avoid the meanest and most idiotic ones.

[clovegirl.livejournal.com]

I put on my vapid face.... I don't really participate much besides fashion and better homes and gardens and such.... I don't feel I have the need to take the bullying or take part of it. If people think just cause I don't spell splendidly I am stupid. Fine... Can we say passive aggressive? (or in some cases just plain aggressive)